The Relationship Cure

Will help your relationships even if your significant other does not read it! Why do I know this? Because the only person you can change is yourself. When you decide to change and if you decide to use the techniques in this book to do so then your relationships have no other choice but to change.... for the better if that is your goal. iI was absolutely blown away by the accuracy of this book and its uses. I found out so many things about my relationship with my husband. I knew it was bad .. but I had no idea how bad or how to fix it. This book gave me exact step by step instructions if you will, to apply into my daily life. . While he or she may be the problem. I can assure you that whatever you are doing as a result of it is most likely not making it better or you wouldn't be looking for this type of book. This takes Dr. Phil's (Oprah Winfrey's friend on tv) advice much further and gives you not only the reasons but the conversations you can have and the things you need to know about each other for change to take place. A true must for couples looking to get married, or recently did get married, or have been married and are looking for the door. Even you happy folks can gain by the knowledge that your doing things right by the book so you don't need to be worried. I have been making changes everyday which are affecting all the people I deal with for the better, even though for me I KNEW he was and still is the problem. LOL! Cream of the crop of relationship books and for the past 20 years, I thought that I had read them all .. This book is better than all of those put together!! Not a quick or fast read. It is more of a study book and a life guide book.

What a great book! Incredibly practical with so many great tools. I've learned so much. It's improved communication in one particularly difficult relationship even though I'm the only one reading the book. I've shared it with a few friends and they've raved about how the tools have been so helpful in difficult relationships - whether or not the other partner is reading the book, but even more so when both are working and discussing it together. Great for if you're having communication problems or if you already have a good thing going with your partner and just want to go deeper.

As always, John Gottman's books are wonderful and clear, providing tangible facts and tools for building a better relationship. I've grown so much just by reading his material. My only complaint about this particular book is that the print is SO small!! The small print makes the content more daunting and difficult to read. It must be about 8pt. font. This is thick reading to start with, but add the small font and it becomes arduous. I might buy the Kindle version just so I can enlarge the font. Don't worry...I'm not some old foggy with bad eyesight. Just a person that doesn't want to work so hard to digest this great information!

Anything written by John Gottman is gold. My husband and I are both reading this. He has great advice on marriage.

Ah, John Gottman. Such wonderful research, such terrible titles. Anyway, I already had to return this book to the library so I can only give you my impressions-- as my sister says, "the spaghetti that's stuck to the wall." So here goes: Interactions involve people making "bids" for attention, affection, connection. When we respond successfully to others' bids, we are able to make strong and resilient relationships at home, work, school. When someone makes a bid, you can respond either by turning toward the bid and making that connection, or by turning away from the bid by ignoring it, or by turning against it by turning it into a chance to fight. So simple, right? Like Gottman's other books, the simple information is challenging to assimilate. I had to look at myself and realize how much turning away I do. And although I felt a little like an evil psychological mastermind, when I intentionally made bids and responded by turning toward bids at work-- wow. The sense of camaraderie and connection was palpable within a day or two. So although reading Gottman's wonderfully empirical research can be uncomfortable, his suggestions for successful relationships are marvelously applicable.

Wish it came in a Kindle version. The best book to read if you're struggling with relationships. This book is a reader friendly overview of Gottman's scientific research on romantic interpersonal relationships. In the past I had read a ton of other relationship books, but none of these were substantiated by published, peer reviewed, scientific research. Since I'm working on my own PhD, at some point the lighbulb went off, and I did some research in the university library on what to read...and found out that Gottman is one of the few well respected academic experts on interpersonal romantic relationships (and other things.) If you look into some of the Interpersonal Communication psychology textbooks, some of them even compare Gottman's research to the gender stereotyped stuff that's out there...well, let's just say I had wasted a lot of money on things like Mars/Venus. Overall, I was very happy to read this book. It does not deal with gender stereotypes or cookie cutter instructions on how to act like a desirable man or a woman. It also does not make you feel bad for not "understanding the system" or the "other gender" or whatever. Rather, it but substantiates the grown up point of view that we are all individual humans and that you actually have to do some homework - that you have to learn, and be attentive to, the specific ways that your special person communicates his/her needs and emotions, given their specific background and experiences, in your specific relationship. Not easy to do, and it means work on your part, but it takes away all those "I am not good at this so tell me what to do" feelings that the other amateur hack books out there pray on.

I haven’t started the book yet but the font is way too small. I wish the pages were higher quality and the font was larger.

This book has altered the course of my life. I whole-heartedly recommend it to anyone who would like to improve their relationships with their spouse, parents, siblings, children, bosses, coworkers, friends, or ANYONE. It teaches fundamentals about the human nature of communication, offering real-life examples to aid in understanding. Based on years of research, I think these guys are onto something amazing, and it has truly changed my life. When one of my best friends confided to me that her husband had moved out and they were on the verge of divorce, I said, "Read this book together with him. It changed my life. Maybe it can help you, too." A few months later, she told me through tears that going through the process of reading this book together had changed their life too, and that now they were closer than ever. I ended up buying another copy to keep for myself. For the preview- it breaks communication down to simple "bids" for connection, the way you could respond to them, and the outcomes of various types of responses. Apparently, we are a lot more predictable than we realize, and I have found the information to be tried and true in my life since I first read the hardcover edition when it first came out, happening upon it by accident in the bookstore.

Muy recomendable

Arrived quickly and is very insightful.

Un libro molto utile e interessante. Scritto in modo chiaro e comprensibile, meglio leggerlo in inglese, rimane molto più diretto e incisivo

Worth buying

Easy read & tried and true exercises. Not just for couples, helps deepen or strengthen many types of relationships.